The Courage To Be Disliked

A single book can change your life.

The Japanese phenomenon that teaches us the simple yet profound lessons required to liberate our real selves and find lasting happiness.

The Courage to be Disliked shows you how to unlock the power within yourself to become your best and truest self, change your future and find lasting happiness. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, the authors explain how we are all free to determine our own future free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a philosophy that's profoundly liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves.

The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you.

The 10 million copy bestseller.

You can also find the book in Bulgarian - Смелостта да не те харесват.

Introduction
The first night: Deny trauma

• The unknown 'third giant'
• Why people can change
• Trauma does not exist
• People fabricate anger
• How to live without being controlled by the past
• Socrates and Adler
• Are you okay just as you are?
• Unhappiness is something you choose for yourself
• People always choose not to change
• Your life is decided here and now

The second night: All problems are interpersonal relationship problems

• Why you dislike yourself
• All problems are interpersonal relationship problems
• Feelings of inferiority are subjective assumptions
• An inferiority complex is an excuse
• Braggarts have feelings of inferiority
• Life is not a competition
• You're the only one worrying about your appearance
• From power struggle to revenge
• Admitting fault is not defeat
• Overcoming the tasks that face you in life
• Red string and rigid chains
• Don't fall for the 'life-lie'
• From the psychology of possession to the psychology of practice

The third night: Discard other people's tasks

• Deny the desire for recognition
• Do not live to satisfy the expectations of others
• How to separate tasks
• Discard other people's tasks
• How to rid yourself of interpersonal relationship problems
• Cut the Gordian knot
• Desire for recognition makes you unfree
• What real freedom is
• You hold the cards to interpersonal relationships

The fourth night: Where the centre of the world is

• Individual psychology and holism
• The goal of interpersonal relationships is a feeling of community
• Why am I only interested in myself?
• You are not the centre of the world
• Listen to the voice of a larger community
• Do not rebuke or praise
• The encouragement approach
• How to feel you have value
• Exist in the present
• People cannot make proper use of self

The fifth night: To live in earnest in the here and now

• Excessive self-consciousness stifles the self
• Not self-affirmation-self-acceptance
• The difference between trust and confidence
• The essence of work is a contribution to the common good
• Young people walk ahead of adults
• Workaholism is a life-lie
• You can be happy now
• Two paths travelled by those wanting to be 'special beings'
• The courage to be normal
• Life is a series of moments
• Live like you're dancing
• Shine a light on the here and now
• The greatest life-lie
• Give meaning to seemingly meaningless life

Afterword